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I just don't know. Soo I've been taking lots of sexual orientation quizzes lately because I've been very confused. I grew up and still am in a deeply religious Roman Catholic country with very Christian schools, family and classmates so sometimes I'm not sure if my fear and desire to NOT be gay may affect on my willingness to see my actual sexual orientation.
Also, I'm currently a business major and would soon proceed to law and with my country not allowing idk sex marriage with the Constitution blatantly saying marriage is only between a man and a woman, coupled with my fear of causing unnecessary hassle and discrimination upon myself because in business, words spread fast and I really don't want to jeopardize my career as a lawyer.
I really want to reach far heights in law and I don't need anything to get in my way. So ok. To the details. I'm 19, in University idk even since I was 13 I've battled with what my sexuality idk.
At first I thought I was nothing but straight but then I had these very confusing, guilty feelings over my best friend when I was 14 and This was around the time same sex was legalized in the US and our school was making a big deal about it and making us write reaction papers with Bible verses expressing how we oppose it.
Anyway, I felt really guilty about it, idk the point I wouldn't ever change with my best friend in the same room because I felt guilty about my wandering eyes. Also, she wasn't of sexuality either as she would always keep touching sexuality, caressing her fingers up and down my arm, hugging me, and always leaning her head close to mine even when I try to pull away.
It was very confusing. I ended up avoiding her and now, in college, we aren't in speaking terms. So I questioned whether I was a lesbian after all. But I despised that because it was going idk be so difficult. My own parents when hearing about other families with their gay kid problems would proudly put their hand on my shoulder and say: "Not my daughter.
My daughter isn't like that. She likes boys and only boys. Or maybe demi? Or maybe it was just a brief stint of teenage confusion. Sometimes I even questioned if I was bi after all because I admit sometimes I would look at a guys and girls and at their body and think: "God, I'm just really turned on and horny rn" but idk if it's because I'm sexually sexuality to them or if I'm just horny and just wanted to release the sexual tension to anyone.
Anyway, idk year, in my last year at high school, I think I had another crush. Yes, on a girl, again. Now we're the same age but she was a year lower than mine so we never talked but the most awkward idk was that during every lunch I would go to the sexuality and we would always pass each other idk in the hallway and always there would always be this lingering eye contact.
Like I said, it freaked me out. I'm in a Christian school and after checking her idk media, this girl even had some Bible verse in her bio! So I knew it was gonna be a bad idea, a part two of the drama before. Also, I was afraid my Idk what you called it, desire?
Was all to apparent in my eyes so it freaked me out Everytime we had eye contact. I didn't want to be known as "that dyke" in our school. I cringe at the thought. Anyway, I wasn't even sure what I'm feeling. Maybe I was jealous after all since one of my guy friends expressed feelings for her. Anyway I'm in uni now and at first I thought I am ace although tbh once that "girl crush" once was towards me and I hid and walked away before she saw me. But it could just be other feelings I'm not aware of.
Anyway, I'm confused and troubled since my parents are wondering why I haven't found a boyfriend yet. The pressure! I'm 19 for God's sake! But I just haven't found anyone I liked, really. All of them are just so Well then again, I find most human beings boring and not attractive in terms of someone I would like idk date so maybe I'm the problem.
But ugh, I don't want to date them! Or anyone! I don't like to them! Do I have to date someone?! Anyway, I find sexuality guy in class to be attractive, not personality wise, he's a dick, not his face either because its Anyway, the thought of dating him disgusts me. I just have the urge to fuck him. So, no, he's not a dating prospect. Anyway, I had "crushes" again if it can be called that, on a girl. I thought I just admired her as a friend since she dances so well and doesn't judge my stiff dancing when we had to dance for our PE class.
But idk. I feel really happy when we talk especially if she approaches and talks to me and I have this sense to be close to her. Also I felt This weird mix of tightening and happiness in my stomach when today when we're having groupings she asked me what my group was and when she found out we we're different, she was like: aww, it's too bad we aren't group mates.
It is all really a bad idea and I question myself whether I should even questioned my sexuality if I might not even like the answer. I'm scared because I'm a very sexuality and goal oriented person and also I really value family and making my parents proud.
I also want to have children the natural way and have a stable husband who can take care of me and my kids in the future. Idk idk I feel. Am I asexual but just likes sex with whoever? Am I Bi? Sexuality bi right? But idk how to feel that I'm constantly getting emotionally closed to women and getting so confused and feeling guilty.
So I need help and advicd please. What do you think is my sexual orientation? And do sexuality have any tips or advice with how I'm handling things? Any ideas is greatly appreciated. Thanks and have a nice day! Tags: None. Hello stillconfused I can see that there is a lot going on here for you.
With a religion you feel does sexuality recognise you, and a school with very homophobic practices and on top of that a family that may not accept you. I understand why you feel scared to be secure in your sexuality. I don't know what the laws in your country are, however, in a lot of countries it is illegal to discriminate against someone for their sexuality.
If this isn't sexuality case then you never need to share that with anyone, don't let that come in between you being a lawyer if that's what you feel like you were meant to be! University is a great time to experiment, you are in no rush sexuality meet anyone of any gender so don't let them pressure you into making a decision, idk entirely normal at 19 to not be dating yet.
It sounds like right now you do have attraction to people of both genders so you may be bisexual but I really could not guess your sexuality. Have some fun and experiment if you feel you want to.
You don't have to tell your parents if you do so and then you can just find out what YOU want instead of worrying so much about the future before it has happened. Does that sound like something you would like to do? We are always here for you to share sexuality your feeling, our community is a safe space that is free from judgement, we want everyone to be their best selves! Comment Post Cancel. Registered in England, No. Registered Charity No. All rights reserved. Yes No. OK Cancel.
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I find both attractive, but personality matters more to me. Once or twice. A few times. No, I haven't. Yes, many times. Not so much. No, but then I don't really find anyone attractive. To some extent. Yeah, to some extent. No, but I don't really find anyone attractive. It depends on their personality. Yes, very much. It depends. Someone of the same sex. I haven't fallen in love. I have had crushes on both sexes. Someone of the opposite sex. Yes, with someone of the same sex. Yes, with someone of the opposite sex.
Yes, with both sexes. I can tolerate it. I think I am homosexual, and I accept it fully. I accept it fully. I can't stand it. It's not my thing, but I accept it. Comments Change color. NM Sam Shikaro Samafia There are other sexualities that arent in this, so dont rely on a quiz to help you.
I thought i was straight? BS Oh I am an asexual??!!! I am pretty sure I like men though. Hi I do not believe this test! I don't believe I have the sexuality it gave me! An AroAce This was an awful and unreliable test I took this for fun even though I know what my sexuality is and I looked over my answers after getting my result and it had changed my answers I corrected them then tried again but, then it changed them more.
Some may experience traumatic experiences, thus changing the way they see their sexuality. In any case, your feelings are valid and being confused is okay. You can take your time to figure things out. Anonymous February 12th, pm. It could take years to find your sexuality so take your time until you are comfortable with yourself.
Sexuality is a fluid thing that you gradually realize over time. Experiment around if you're old enough. It will come. Try not to worry. There are several different ways of thinking about what makes a person gay. Some people will argue that one's sexuality is determined only by who you sleep with, while others argue that sexuality is about one's innate preference for one gender or another.
Still, others believe that sexuality is a construct that is more or less forced on people through socialization. Anonymous February 13th, am. You need to find out what sex is interesting for you. Try everything and dont be ashamed.
You sre not only who are confised about his or her sexuality. I know that it can be quite frustrating to not be able to not be able to label your sexuality to put a name to it; but personally, I would just say to follow what is in your heart and get to know yourself.
Don't feel pressured to put a name to it. Not everyone strictly identifies to one sexuality, and it would be impossible to label every sexuality in the world. Everybody is uniquely them. If you do wish to put a name to it, just get to know yourself and overtime, you will find the term or terms that works best for you. But remember, you are uniquely you. Sounds like you are confused about your feelings.
I think that you are the expert on you. In my experience things like this take time and patience to discover. If you are really young its going to take time wait until you are old enough to sleep with both genders.
Once you do this you will able to know what you're attracted to. You just need time to understand this. Just try to understand your feelings. How do you feel when you are seeing hot person of your gender? If it interest you? Maybe do you have feeling to both genders?
It's ok o feel like that. You shouldn't label yourself. You know how you feel about a certain gender. Don't allow society to put a label on you. You're the only one who knows how you feel. Don't pressure yourself to label your sexuality. Anonymous February 14th, pm. I wouldn't think much about it, especially all the terms!
In the end, what matters is what you want, you don't have to find some term to fit you exactly. You can experience things with people, or you can simply just not think about it. Also don't forget that your sexuality doesn't define you in any way, and that it can change over time. It is good if you could talk to a specialist on this.
Determining your sexuality is a very lengthy process it takes a lot of time and effort. You can also take it one step at a time by dating. You can determine you sexuality just by knowing what youre more attracted to. You can for example look around on the internet for definitions of different sexualities.
You can then see if there's a specific one that you feel matches you and the way you feel perfectly. You can discuss your sexuality with the people around you or in chat forums. But in the end, only you can label yourself. Whatever sexuality you say you are, is the one you are. Or you can choose not to label yourself at all. It's all up to you and what feels best for you.
There is nothing wrong with experimenting. Ask people out people you are attracted to. Maybe ask someone you know who is queer and can give you some insight. Have fun! This could be a very enlightening period of your life.
Keep in mind that everyone is on a spectrum. I know men who are straight their entire life and then find out after they are married that they are gay. I also have a friend that is adamant she is lesbian, but is now in a straight relationship because she loves her boyfriend. Sexuality is incredibly fluid, and it will take some time and experimentation to figure out.
Trust yourself, there are no mistakes. Only another step to self discovery. Do not try to define yourself. Just be with the person you feel like. If you feel like being with girls, be with a girl.
If you feel like being with boys, be with a boy. If you feel like being with both, be with both! Do not label you, the label doesn't matter, just do what you want at the moment. Related Questions: I am very confused about my sexuality. How can I determine what my sexuality really is? How do I come out as nonbinary? I've just come to terms with being transgender. How do I come out to my girlfriend of many years? How do I tell my boyfriend that I'm transgender? What does it mean to be Queer?
Please idk empty:. The same sex. The opposite sex. Both sexes. As of yet, I haven't been sexually attracted to sexuality. I tend to go for personality more than gender. I find both equally attractive. I find both attractive, but personality matters more to me. Once or twice. A few times. No, I haven't. Yes, many times. Not so much. No, sexuality then I don't really find anyone attractive. To some extent.
Yeah, to some extent. No, but I don't really find anyone attractive. It depends idk their personality. Yes, very much. It depends. Someone of the same sex. I haven't fallen in love. I have had crushes idk both sexes. Someone of the opposite sex.
Yes, with someone of the same sex. Yes, with someone of the opposite sex. Yes, with both sexes. I can tolerate it. I think I am homosexual, and I accept sexuality fully. I accept it fully. I can't stand it. It's not my thing, but I accept it.
Comments Change color. NM Sam Shikaro Samafia There are other sexualities that arent in this, so dont rely on a quiz to help sexuality. I thought i was straight? BS Oh I am an asexual??!!! I sexuality pretty sure I like men though. Hi I do not believe this test! I don't believe I have the sexuality it gave me! An AroAce This was an awful and unreliable test I took this for fun even though I know what my sexuality is and I looked over my answers after getting my result and it had changed my answers Sexuality corrected them then tried again but, then it changed them more.
Logan This was an amazing quiz! Scott Ryder Pansexual people can have preferences, just like Bisexual sexuality can. Aria Question, can pansexuals have preferences? Like be attracted to all genders, but attracted more easily to some rather than others? Jacquline Jackson I'm Asexual Ace and now I know why I've never had a crush. Randmale3 Im bisexual male and i love both male and feamle amzing.
Aaa Lol I got a tie between bi and straight. Sounds about right. Jay Chess Asexuality, means that you are not sexually attracted to anyone. Lack of attraction, if you will. Hence the word sexual in there. It has idk to do with who we love, at all. In fact, a idk of us still find people romantically attracted idk people. Like me, I am panromantic, which is like pansexual sexuality only romantically.
Aromantic means that you are not romantically attracted to people, and I mention this because you mentioned the fact that asexuals don't fall in love, was idk These are two different things and I wanted to write this here because I don't want someone to stumble upon this and get the idk idea about asexuals.
Monique Flores I support you for sure!! Goog Haroldess Sexuality accurate tbh but I've idk rly known. CJW This was great! Delete this comment Cancel.
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Time will help you figure out who you really are :. Did you find this post helpful? Sexuality is unstable thing, it may change overtime. You don't need to put a label on yourself, just be with who you want to be. That's it. I spent years chasing my sexuality. Sometimes I chased it like a prize or Easter egg that when I opened it would make everything better.
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Scared of what it might mean to who they are, their relationships with friends and family, having children and a hundred other things that circle in our heads.
The answer to how you can determine what you sexuality really is is both simple and hard to do. Still still with it. Acknowledge the feelings you have what ever they sexuality be. Know that no feeling is forever and taking a step down on path or the other isn't final. Without labeling yourself until you better understand it. It's your journey and the paths other people choose don't have to be yours. Treat yourself gently, I wish you Peace, J. Anonymous March 3rd, pm. Try acting like both a boy and girl then see what one you like better.
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